You Can Pickup even When You are NOT!
A talk about pickup. Attracting, Seducing and Dating rather than sitting on your “hump” sofa watching TV, porn, gulping your alcohol and going to bed… It’s been a long time since I approached this topic and if you have been following it, but nothing has changed… My Bad… if I can find some kind of a technology that can land a fist on your face right from this page you are reading… I’ll be the first one to adopt this mind blowing technology…
Well, things haven’t been as active in the Pickup area. I haven’t been going out sarging (approaching women) or closing the deals. DT and PFC are taking a lot of my time these days and the few times I do get a breather, blame it on Sumeet for landing at my place for the weekend. Nah! It’s all good. The tiring week doesn’t leave me any energy over the weekend for pickup… been sleeping 4 hours a night ever since PFC took off.
But I’ve been hanging out with Sumeet, who is single mindedly focussed to extract every ounce of pickup knowledge that may exist in my bones… I’m glad to say he’s progressing… it’ll take time… but he’s on the right track and unlike all those I’ve gone out with to help them overcome their anxieties and learn the basics of pickup, Sumeet has actually aped what I used to do… Go out alone in the field… the bars, the clubs, the whatever…
And if I’m there… he’ll always rush back for tips and advise… giving me a summary of what happened when he just approached a girl he liked… we then reverse engineer, identify what went wrong and he goes back to approach a new set of girls or a mixed set of boys and girls.
In all this I find myself simply enjoying the environment, sitting back, relaxed and being able to enjoy a few drinks in the social environment. But there’s a catch. Once you’ve learnt to switch off the brain - an act used earlier during a guy’s learning stage - you find yourself unconsciously picking up women even when you are not consciously intending to.
I’ve become very aware of this increasing instances in which girls end up slipping phone numbers in my pockets while I was just having a casual chit chat… I was stumped.
Last Saturday Sumeet, t! and I were in San Clemente, a beautiful surfing town where I lived for around 5 years. Sitting there at my favorite bar/restaurant, we were enjoying the sunset, the bloody marys, watching the ocean waves slipping below the floor of the bar… Sumeet had gone through an approach… it was sweet according to me… though unfortunately he couldn’t number close the sweet blond.
It’s then I started talking to the waitress.
She : So what do you do?
Me : Screenwriter… looking for an actress to play a role.
She : Wow…
Me : Yeah… are you an actress?
She : No.
Me : Would you be interested… I assure you it’s not porn that I’m making.
She cracks up : Of course!
And then I get into this whole routine of making her do a scene and approach me as if she is the CEO of a company and introducing herself. She would walk, approach the table, shake my hand, blurt her dialogue out, which I would reject and ask her to do the whole scene again…
When did I segue into her personal life, I have no idea. But she started talking about her family and all things in her life… I was getting bored and was moving away… she kept coming back… until when it was time to leave… she stood outside the restaurant … waiting for me to come… spoke some… and quietly slipped her number into my jackets pocket.
None of us noticed it then. It’s last night while brushing my jacket that I found her number. Next to it was a heart sign. I threw it in the trash can. Wasn’t interested.
But I did one thing which I always do. I broke the whole conversation up into pieces to see what I did and didn’t do that lead to her pushing so hard to have sneaked her number into my pocket.
And that too when I wasn’t playing the PU Game. What was it?
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Here’s what I came up with. I had no intention of turning it into a post, but seeing Sumeet jumping on my Sex-Romance categories today reading all my articles and your number of emails requesting to write more about the Game… I think it’s time to put this down…
1. My Reality
During the entire evening, I was very occupied with me, my life, my conversations with friends, my occasion (it was the night before the birthday)… in short I was firmly footed in “MY REALITY”… never once did I venture out into the waitress’s reality…
The objective is to suck a woman into your Reality… leaving her amazed, excited, tingly, crazy in side your world. Women will check a man’s strength of his own reality by doing stuff and shit tests… some may get bitchy by shooting darts at you in form… “Hey we are busy… could you leave us”… or doing the hand sign to you to go away… or something like “Hey Buy Me a Drink”
The moment you comply… to her “command”, react to her bitchiness, or answer her stupid questions… you have left your reality and failed…. you are now in her reality… where she is going to dangle you like a puppet, be entertained, throw you out and move on…
There you are are mouthing “FUCKING BITCH” at the corner of the bar… sorry dude… it’s your fault… if you don’t want to date anyone less than a 8 or a 9, then she too doesn’t want to date a spineless weakling who hasn’t learnt to be strong enough for her…
It’s all in the mind…
2. She doesn’t matter at all… Not One Bit
You are more important, more larger, more bigger than any girl in this world that you want to approach. You are the man. You are the most motherfucking important man in the bar or the club or the party. Never Ever Ever lose sight of this. No woman is worth becoming a dog for… but which you inadvertently do every time.
Notice your body language, see that lust for her in your eyes, see the hurt on your face once she rejects you or watch the tremble in your voice when you try to approach or make conversation. Many successful men who have conquered kingdoms, took over companies, get paid in seven figures and up… merely start shaking like a leaf when asked to approach and attract a woman.
Why?
And if that’s what happens to them, you are but a mere mortal!
The bizarreness of this concept can be related to smoking cigarettes. When big thinkers, successful people, world famous men light up a cigarette, they do the most stupidest thing in their life. How can some of the most intelligent people on planet earth light up a cigarette?
It’s the most stupid act. As is the concept of this whole world of women which is impossible to get into. The first thought that shoots in your mind on seeing a woman… is … I have to make a good impression on her… I have to make her like me… I have to get her number… I have to date her… I wanna fuck her real bad…
You already have, with those thoughts, raised the woman on such a high pedestal, that even you can’t reach.
Get back into your life. Picturize your 100 foot tall cut out… now see the tininess of the woman you are trying to approach… she appears so small in front of that 100 feet you…
She or her reactions don’t matter one bit… and when she sees that in your talk, your body language, in your eyes… she wants you… more and more.
A few more… but gotta go… for now… the above two should work out for you…
And once you are there on the road to becoming a PUA (I’m still not one), you’ll find that all those things you had great difficulty in applying in the pickup field, has actually become a subconscious habit, a part of yourself…
… Remember and thank me the day a cute girl kisses you or slips in her phone number in your pocket, even though you were just “casually” talking to her… that dear readers would be a day to order a scotch and toast… for yourself and thank some guy called oz who’s blog you once used to read… :)
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December 6th, 2006 at 6:04 pm
OMG!!! Can’t believe you posted an article on “The Game†Fucking awesome. Even more awesome to see my name so many times in it…I am FUCKING ELATED….Yes, THANK YOU Oz for all the help to me in becoming aPUA…. No Mystery Boot camps or Tyler RSD would have helped as much as oz one-on-one is… I am damn sure that I am progressing good…just remembering the first time I sarged with you…I had fucking 1000 excuses for everything, I wanted a reason for bloody everything, I wanted the results for freaking everything…It doesn’t work that way…Nope it doesn’t . The best advice I could ever get was the mind “switch-off†that you gave me..Fucking priceless, it is a bit hard to implement but, I can see I am moving in that direction. I also have to Thank Moe for the inspirations he gave…Fuck David D …Moe is the man….
Alright after the long thank you speech, as your drunken ass couldn’t remember the spell you cast on the waitress, let me break it down. Something like a field report…. Another thing…I really donno when she slipped the number in your pocket…but, I do remember she gave you the number once before too and you gave that number to me right in front of her…lol!!!! And I threw it away right there….Dude… I would tell you the only thing which was missing from the waitress was she to strip down right there and ask oz to “take-meâ€â€¦she was mesmerized no ends.
Field Report:
I don’t remember how it started but, when it did…. You totally impressed her with the screen-writing thingy… You also said that I am looking for a particular characteristic in a woman… and there are high chances that it could be her…
Waitress starts blushing….
Oz: I have this picture in mind of a CEO… so why don’t you walk and shake hands with me and introduce urself
Waitress: Hmm r u serious…ahaah…ok..But, what shud I say
Oz: Shake my hands and say I am the CEO of Software Inc.( Christ you did say that)
So, she does her parade once, falters, does it second time, falters, and you ask me…how many times you want me to do this with her….
Sumeet: 3 times
Oz: 3 it is
She does it 3 times and you say. Fine …not great. You can practice… (Fucking awesome neg)
Then I think you had to leave coz of a phone call or something…and the Waitress asks me and T! If you do this all the time with every woman…
Sumeet: Nope…He doesn’t….. He has this awesome sense of a personality…something that you and me cannot observe. And when he sees this character has that in him/her…he does it… he is no ordinary writer…
Waitress: OMG I can’t believe it
Sumeet (in my thoughts): OMG I cannot believe how wet you are in your pants…lol
Then you come back, and ask about her. and she says she has two kids…and is married….On asking she fluffs about what her hubby does blah lah blah…and I think that is where you nailed it bro…
Oz: Yeah I get that he does a lot of physical work, but…what other things he does which would cater to his intellectual self…
Waitress: Ahhhhhh…….hmmmmm….ummmmm
Oz: Yeah and you like intellectual guys, don’t you
Waitress: yes I am a sucker for them.
She somehow gives you her number, which you pass it on to me, which I drop it on the table…Then we fluff a lot…I could see it in her eyes. She wanted the Oz spanking..lol!!!
She would go to the other table and come back right away without wasting even a second…It was gorgeous.
Then while we were leaving she is already bloody waiting for us at the exit (ok now waiting for you lol)… I donno what you guys talked coz…I had to leave…see I am a good Wing…I gave DHV and then Eased out…lol!!!
This was fucking amazing….i loved that night… As if the trip to San Clemente was not enough…you gave me this…Fantastic
Now I got to boast about myself a bit…about my approach that night…You pushed me into the set, so that your ex-boss would ease in and then I could leave…but, he backed off…
It’s a three set 2-gals, 1 –guy
They all are sitting..and I cannot approach them and stay there standing…So, I made a mental frame of from where wud I pull up the chair and where wud I sit…
Sumeet: Hey guys, me and my friends up there are having a great time there, but something just cropped up..so, real quick…coz I needa go back for my part of fun there…Who do you thin lies more…Boys or Girls?
Set: Blah Blah Blah
Sumeet: OMG!!! You guys are interesting…i smoothly pull up a chair and sit between the two girls and back-facing my target..
Then on the same thread I kinda ask them…in that case who do you think cheats more..boys or girls..
Set: Blah Blah Blah….
We fluff a bit..the target wants to jump in and grabs my shoulder….
Sumeet: Wow she is so grabby…how does her husband cope with her…ahah
Obstacle: She is single…ahaha
Sumeet: No wonder…I look at the target and wink…she playfully slaps my hand
Just then T! joins us to wing me…Thank You T! You are fantastic as ever….
Sumeet: Guys do you believe mind-reading
Target: I have never seen it, so I don’t believe it
Interesting…I pull up my pen and ask the target for a piece of paper..She says she doesn’t have it
Sumeet: Yeah you would never get a guy’s number…ahaah
Then I do a mind-reading trick…Please see at the bottom for this…and please be greatful to me..coz I am the inventor of this…but, you can use it…it always makes the jaws drop if performed with skill
I see everyone amazed….mouth wide open….
This is where I made a mistake….i am such an asshole….i always like to leave when I have built the tension…I gave such a huge DHV (Demonstration Of High Value). Come and sit at the table
Within 5-Minutes, the Target is back at our table…asking me…My friend there says you could never read his mind…At this time Oz was talking to Kartik on the phone…and he gives the phone to my target and says the most amazing thing I heard all night…
Oz: Hey talk to my friend and tell him we are in California…he says I am in Bangladesh…( Bnagla..Bnagla..Bangladesh…of all countries…lol)
So, Kartik if you remember talking to a hot blonde that night..it was her…
My weakest point I think is…I shit in my pants when a girl approaches me…I look at Oz and ask him…Kya Karoon?
Oz: Isolate her
But where shud I take her, blah blah blah..all those excuses…fuck em all…
I grab her hand and tell her…let me show you something cool
I take her to the table she was sitting and tell the guys…
Hey I need to talk to your friend for a bit..i am sure you have no probs if I take her there for a bit…
Not at all
Then she asks me why am I not reading her friends mind( Guys..this trick has to be done only once…coz, else it might get obvious that you are fucking with them)
Sumeet: I hate when people question my art…I have not slogged my ass learning this to bloody convince someone like your friend…
But, I would like to show you something else… So, I look deep in her eyes and start another trick….Her hands are closed to each other..right over her Vagina…I grab it…oohh..hands you sick minds..what did you think…and move them apart( I learnt this from Oz…If a gal has her hands folded…grab them and separate them..while you are talking to her…), SO, I separate her hands and see now she has her hands on each side of hers..very rigid…While doing the trick she busts me…she knows the trick…I am like..see that’s why I am not a magician..and then take her hands and ask her to ease out…then we fluff a bit, but, then I just couldn’t come up with anything better…
I had to leave….I have to learn so much more…I have to learn about escalation, isolation, calibration, closes…so much to learn
OK now..you eager magicians here is the trick…I learnt it from my dad when I was 6…poor my dad never realized that his Son would use the same trick to pick up girls 20 years later…
It is done with cards…but, over the years I have modified it so much that the same principle I use it with anything..just with mind, on a paper..anything..
You have a deck of cards…shuffle them..ask them to shuffle it and break them into three sets an place them face down..
Now tell them.. I am gonna say out the name of a card loud and pick the same card…right?
1: Club Ace( you have to say anything)
2. Diamond King
3: Spades jack
Boom you show it to them..they are the same cards..lol!!! How?
Heres the trick
When you shuffle the cards..take a look at the bottom most card and spread the set in to three sets…Say suppose the last card was Club Ace…Now you will pull out a card from any of the set but the set which has Club Ace..but, you would say..Club Ace…Now you might get some other card but, not Club Ace…Say you got Diamond King…say..Diamond King and pick another card from the second set which is not the set with Club Ace…You might have got Spades Jack…now, Say Spades jack and pick the card which originally was Club Ace…That’s it..show the three cards to the Women and have them come over to your table…
This is sooooo awesome Oz bhai…Let this section keep going…I can bare my soul out and give field reports if required. so, our guys can learn..Not everyone has the pleasure of being with you and learning the trade…so, Let DT do it….
December 6th, 2006 at 6:21 pm
Oz, hardcore dude!!
Always in debt for the pieces of advice you give:)
December 7th, 2006 at 1:36 am
see.. the thing with me is, kuriyas like me, in fact they love me. (that is what i like to believe in) but when i open my mouth…..
anyway, there was this a fit girl in my lectures last year and i think, she had a thing for me. we always used to smile at each others and when i used to tap on the desk - she used to respond me back. but never got to find out if she really had hot-spot for me or not..
and there is another gal who i think has a bit of thing for me…
December 7th, 2006 at 3:16 am
Hope soon somebody in Hollywood aprocahes you OZ! for your ” know how” in the game of PU and Dating.
take out one week in isloation and you may come out with a nice script suitable for Brad Pitt, Will Smith or Leonardo de Caprio:)
December 7th, 2006 at 8:21 am
saala tu tho khiladi number 420 nikla :o ^:)^
December 7th, 2006 at 5:24 pm
Happy birthday P!!!!! And many happy returns of the day
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December 7th, 2006 at 5:56 pm
@HG..stop making excuses and go approach her, talk to her….If you are going to keep making excuses then you will remain that way…you are young, you have great things going for you( you are a writeer, a critic, you are passionate, you have traveeled a lot)…you have so many things to talk about…what are you waiting for my man…go for it…
December 8th, 2006 at 3:37 am
@Sumeet - totally agree with you…no matter what, you need to approach and talk!!
A funny incident happened a few months ago. A friend/colleague of mine (say X) was interested in this hot girl (say Y) at work who happens to be my friend too. X was after me to introduce him to Y. It happened to be Y’s birthday and I took X along with me when I went to wish Y and introduced them to each other and disengaged to let them have their own conversation. I stood closeby talking to Y’s friend. There was absolutely no conversation going on between these X and Y!! Y offered a piece of cake to X….he gladly accepted….and didn’t even remember to wish her!! Even after making the approach easy, it was a total waste since there was no talk.
So HG, please go approach and talk man…you have nothing to lose! Good Luck.
December 8th, 2006 at 6:50 am
Oz,
Hope you had a kick ass birthday……Rock on…My man
Cliff
December 9th, 2006 at 8:16 pm
Belated Happy Bday Ozzie. Hope you had an awesome day.\:d/
All these articles about pick up are making me think twice when a guy talks to me. No clue if he really meant the words he said ot just trying those lines cause they work. :-?