Vibe : The heart of Attraction & Seduction
I’ve wanted to write some real exciting revelations I’ve had in the last week after meeting the Juggler Method guys in Los Angeles. Blame it on me getting bored of the same old same old DT Header Picture. So last night instead of writing the post that I’ve been so excited about, I was redesigning the header portion.
If you haven’t noticed it so far, there are 9 small Desi Train header pictures on the top left corner which rotate one after another. So no, as per AP’s email of this morning, I’m not sitting on my computer changing the Desi Train logo every 15 minutes. :)
Anyways - here’s something I would like to start with. I know I always go off tangent from what I started talking about. A.D.D.! But when there is an idea or a principle or a thing that we are new to, and try to understand it, we come across multiple concepts that went into that thing or the idea. If you are like me you allow yourself to let a few of those concepts sink in your inner system that you have completely grasped and understood. The remaining concepts you end up trashing, setting aside or God knows what else people do with it.
One such concept which I heard of again and again from the Pickup Gurus in Los Angeles was the V I B E.
I listened to it, didn’t pay much attention and went on with life and the style of pickup that I was used to. Sometimes things would work great and at other times I had nothing.
Two weeks ago when I met the Juggler method guys - the VIBE was hammered again and again into us. You have to have the vibe. You must have the vibe. Without the vibe no amount of style, personality, routines, interesting stories, humor etc. none of it will work with the woman you are attracted to at the club or in the mall.
The other most important thing was to have the vibe BEFORE, MUCH BEFORE, you approached and started talking to the ladies.
This finally sunk in. The heart opened up and then it let the core meaning of the vibe float in to settle down inside the system.
And it happened while doing the silliest thing I do every day.
Driving.
Have you noticed that when you are driving alone (or even walking alone or sitting or eating or… ) - if you are not thinking anything and just blankly doing the driving part or even if you have a thought you blankly let the movie about the thought run in your head. No reaction at all.
But there is a reaction. Something which is constant all throughout. We’ve stopped noticing it. And that state of mind can best be seen from this:
The next time you are driving alone or doing something alone or even with someone giving you company - Check for your facial stiffness.
The muscles will be firm or the jaw will be a bit dropped. The eyebrows may just be tending to move in a frown. If asked to speak immediately, you may have a bit of a delayed reaction to open your mouth to answer.
What is that state? It’s not a positive state of mind.
Since I practice the Sedona Method, I decided to try this while I was driving: I let out a slight smile, a slight stretch at the corner of the lips.
You will be surprised. The dull, dumb state changes to one where you feel lighter, pleasant, more willing to let go of stupid stuff.
Keeping that smile I went out running errands and was pleasantly surprised to note strangers reacting very positively.
Women at the grocery store turned back to smile at you, the girl at the check out wanted to know what your name meant (BIG IOI - Indicator of Interest), the cutie at Mail Boxes started talking about what she liked and you simply reciprocated - which in turn ended up she asking YOU out for a drink.
THE VIBE.
The positive, giving, flow of positive energy.
Due to this you will feel like. THIS IS MY PARTY AND THESE ARE MY GUESTS. That state of mind makes your body open up. You are ready to receive and talk to people at the mall or the bar or the club with such warmth and affection that you have bowled them over even before you approached them.
That Vibe takes care of Bitch Shields and the Shit Tests too. This is what happened the very same evening while I went out with friends at Club Vegas in Costa Mesa.
A famous Gap Model with her friend. The whole club is looking at them. Guys are staring at the two tall models, but doing nothing. Simply staring. Since I had been feeling and exuding the warm vibe all day I approach the Gap Model…
oz: “Hey Guys… How are you doing?”
GapModel: “We are busy”
oz to Model2: “Is this the hottest club in Costa Mesa?”
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Model2: “Yes… but I like Sutra better”
GapModel: “We are busy”
oz to Model2: “You look very beautiful. I would love to get to know you”
Model2: “Thank you. (smiles wide)… what’s your name?”
oz: “I’m oz. What’s your name?”
Model2: “Katya…. Nice to meet you oz… its so nice to have a guy walk up and talk with such a nice and warm vibe (I kid you NOT THAT WERE HER EXACT WORDS.)”
oz to GapModel: “Hi… I’m oz”
GapModel: “I’m pregnant”
oz: “Is it mine?”
That cracked her up. She started running back and forth “Oh my God Oh My God”
oz: “Shhh… be nice… I still don’t know if I’ll say a ‘Yes’ to marry you… We’ll see”
GapModel and Model2 are hysterical. The cold distance suddenly melts and they are all touching and kissing my face all over while talking…
oz: “Hey hey hey… This is precious merchandise. I’ll have to charge you for every kiss”
What happened there?
Yes I am spontaneous most of the time. But the key factor to those girls opening up - so quickly inspite of the strong bitch shield - lay in the VIBE I carried all day along.
The flow of Vibe had me in a state that when I entered the club I felt like this was MY PARTY and everyone at the club was a GUEST TO MY PARTY. And I went around with that state, greeting men and women with warmth and love not caring a damn bit about their reaction. The smile, the warmth, the open body stance, the sweet greeting…. people just responded back with equal warmth.
So this forms Exercise 4 after you have done and completed the first three exercises.
1. Smile as soon as you wake up and get out of bed. A slight stretch from the cornor of you lips is enough - a kind of a Mona Lisa Smile. This is your VibeMile (Vibe from Smile)
2. Carry this VibeMile during breakfast, when you leave for work, in your car and on and on… as long as you can.
3. When during the course of the day you suddenly realize the VibeMile is not there on your face, get it back. Feel how it changes and melts the push and pull that goes on inside you over the infinite number of things in your life.
4. Now in the evening dress up PUA style and go out to a club or a bar. If you don’t have a club/bar that has female rich environment, then go to the mall or the super market or any store.
5. Now provided you have been practicing the first three exercises religiously, walk around with the VibeMile in your target place and then say “HI” (without letting go of the VibeMile) to all passing men and women… young and old. Notice the difference in reactions you get when you have the VIBE going inside you.
6. Do point 5. for 7 days approaching 10 women each day. Begin your day with the VibeMile, stretch it throughout the day and in the evening go out and with a slightly more smile say “Hi” and if you feel confident based on the reactions you are getting, go ahead - approach and talk to the women using whatever attraction and seduction method you’ve been following or reading about.
CAUTION: You forgot the VibeMile in the morning… infact the whole day and you now are in a club… you put on your VibeMile and approach the girl. It doesn’t work… she kicks your ass… you crash and burn… you walk straight to the bar and order a vodka in a tall glass and then you think oz is a fucking idiot.
Sorry. The VibeMile has to be practiced all throughout the day continously so that it penetrates your mind and body. You will notice that your voice, state of mind and body stance – these all are very different (positive and upbeat) with a 12 hour VibeMile than that of a 12 second one.
Check it out. You’ll be pleasantly surprised by the results. Use it for meeting women or even socializing and building contacts or networking. You will notice that people will react so positively and warmly to you if you have the VibeMile on for most of the day.
I’ve just set your drive to become a Pick up Artist on Fast Forward Mode. Just write “Thank You oz†behind the check you mail me for this tip ;) Have Fun!!!
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June 20th, 2006 at 9:40 pm
dude, the VibeMile has a lot of positive aspects. Even if you are not socializing or meeting women, it just spreads a very positive Vibe in your surroundings and helps you breeze through the day. Its contagious man! It just takes one person to make a difference in the environment. You can either deaden it or liven it up. Have you ever noticed that if one person in the meeting room yawns, suddenly there are yawns all over the place? I believe the smile works the same way. :)
~Manoj~
June 21st, 2006 at 4:59 am
The Smile dos have a positive effect on one’s self. You will find people smilling at you.
I agree with the positive energy part. Difficult to implement every day but still can try.
Nice read OZ and for practice too.
Punds
June 21st, 2006 at 5:30 am
Do u do Peacocking as Style recommends.David DeAngelo’s C&F method sounds good,but i doubt it’s gonna work in India:-?
June 21st, 2006 at 7:52 am
Manoj, You are right on. I’m still reeling under the effects of the revelation. People are opening up to me like crazy any time any day. Unbelievable! :o
Punds, Try it out. The VibeMile has now been field tested by me for 4 days at a stretch. Amazing results!
Boss, I’m not much into peacocking. Though my shirts are from BR or Gap. The top two buttons are open and there’s a pendant hanging down my neck. Jeans are the absolute - get the woman’s attention from Guess and shoes are always always from New Rock.
I haven’t directly read DYD though have browsed through his works on discussion boards. Try it out. When you say you have a doubt - it can only mean you haven’t gone out in the field and tried it consistently over a wide range of people. Remember the road to becoming a PUA is when at the end of the journey you have your own method that you use in the field which may be derivatives of all other things you used and creatively came up with some of your own stuff.
June 21st, 2006 at 7:53 am
Oz,
As always u r right
A smile is the only way to start and end your day with. It keeps you in a positive frame of mind and face life in a spirited manner.
Smile disarms the stranger and is a tremendous opener. It does not matter whether you are a PUA or not.
TC
June 21st, 2006 at 10:54 am
Thanx for the advice bro,I sure as hell am gonna need it.