Desi Train

Too many things to put down in my journal; just haven’t had the time. It’s as if when you have too many things, they end up blocking in each other from pouring out. And it’s amazing to see the new things you experience if you can get past your limiting beliefs. Now learning about the art of pickup (women or just pure social), I find it amazing how limiting beliefs have stopped us from talking to strangers in a social environment.

With the ever atomizing society, its no wonder our belief systems make each of us live lonelier lives. And I’m talking of a typical single life in L.A. or N.Y. or even in Bombay or Bangalore. So you are here in this foreign city with no family and friends. It’s so different if you live around friends and family all your life. But these days, things change, places change, you move, your environment keeps changing, your job changes, your lovers change (maybe), everything keeps changing….sadly what should change and rarely does is your limiting beliefs. So here’s what I found about the misconceptions in the world of pickup:

She will slap you if you approach her
Yes, if you approach her Shakti Kapoor style “Heeeyyy babby, want to have a …sluuuuuuurppp……..drink?”
In the last two months, with more than 200 approaches, none, not even single one has even raised her voice, leave alone slapping. This notion is so fucking untrue. Women in clubs, bars, libraries, malls, stores…in single cities like LA, NY or Bombay would love to talk to you, if you approach them in a very light casual way.

You need a PERFECT line to approach a woman
Sorry to break your dreamy thoughts on the perfect line…but there is never a perfect line. There will never be a perfect line. The lines CAN BE as silly and stupid as you want them to be. Get this: The sillier the line, the more attracted the women will be to you. The difference is DELIVERY. When I approached “AM” an ex-Indian model in LA recently, I walked to her and said “Do you think a 62-year old Amitabh Bachchan is hot?”. 48 hours later, we were making paneer masala in the kitchen at my house. Its never about the content. Its always about the delivery.

Alcohol helps to calm the nerves, before approach
Sorry to kick your ass on this again. But a true PUA (Pick up artist) or an earnest AsPUA like me (Aspiring PUA), will never touch alcohol in the field.

Buy Her Drinks and she’s yours
Sure. If that be the case, I should have 26,348 women in my life. HA!!! Do you know how many men before and after you have bought her drinks and how many will so stupidly keep buying her drinks. Never buy her drinks, NOT EVEN WHEN SHE ASKS YOU TO. If she does that ie. asks you to buy her a drink, then you are doing good. It’s her way to get control over the situation you have so effortlessly unsettled her in. And she is not used to it!!!
Never Buy her drinks, reply with “Uhuh, but I’ll let you buy one for me” Again – the DELIVERY is important. Think a mischievous Aamir or Salman Khan delivering the dialogue and you’ll have it bang on.

So have I tried the above? You bet. You’ll be amazed by how many women will ACTUALLY buy you a drink because they are impressed and turned on by your alpha-ness, your gentle side and your congruence.

You have to be Rich and/or Handsome to date beautiful women
Nope. The two things you need are Confidence (Alpha male) and the ability to T A L K. Nothing more nothing less. I won’t lie to you – I’m the last person who will call me handsome. I have a long nose, droopy shoulders, dark circles below my eyes, my hair keeps falling over my eyes all the time, I’m shorter that the society’s “acceptable” standards, my dad’s not a politician or someone from the entertainment industry, me or my family do not own a business or have money to boast in the millionare circles, oh and this is a good one…I have stained crooked teeth. The only thing I have is a beautiful mind and that is not gonna help cause I can’t carry it on a plate to show it around to beautiful women. This is one of the worst misconceptions I have seen my frustrated friends end up talking all the time.
So guys get out there and have fun…talk. And girls…could you go light on the newbies when they approach you…this time.. will ya :-)

This entry was posted on Thursday, August 18th, 2005 at 11:00 am
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